Comments on: What If Your Birth Mother Doesn’t Live Up To Your Expectations? http://christian.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/what-if-your-birth-mother-doesn-t-live-u Adoption from a Christian perspective - Topics include: religion, faith, prayer, and Christian adoptive parenting. Sat, 08 Aug 2009 10:09:51 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Jan Baker http://christian.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/what-if-your-birth-mother-doesn-t-live-u/comment-page-1#comment-30 Jan Baker Thu, 06 Apr 2006 15:30:31 +0000 http://christian-ad.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/04/06/what-if-your-birth-mother-doesn-t-live-u#comment-30 I think that this situation points out the need for having realistic expectations going into a reunion.<br /> <br /> Also totally agree with you that at least having some information about birth parents growing up can be very valuable for children. One of the many drawbacks of closed adoptions is "not knowing" and sometimes creating fantasy families - good or bad.<br /> <br /> Most people eventually say that they appreciate knowing the truth - good or bad though. I wonder how old the young man who did not find his "fantasy" parents is? Generally older searching adoptees do have more realistic expectations entering reunion.<br /> <br /> Good post, thanks! I think that this situation points out the need for having realistic expectations going into a reunion.

Also totally agree with you that at least having some information about birth parents growing up can be very valuable for children. One of the many drawbacks of closed adoptions is “not knowing” and sometimes creating fantasy families – good or bad.

Most people eventually say that they appreciate knowing the truth – good or bad though. I wonder how old the young man who did not find his “fantasy” parents is? Generally older searching adoptees do have more realistic expectations entering reunion.

Good post, thanks!

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