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Situation #5
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Our move to Seattle complete, we were anxious to learn more about our latest potential adoption. Our first meeting with the 19-year-old woman was fabulous – the best ever. The woman was a new Christian who said she believed God had allowed her to get pregnant so she could give her baby to people who otherwise couldn’t have one.
Was this woman for real? She seemed like a gift from God…almost too good to be true. She was due in four months. She said she was determined to relinquish and assured us that God was telling her that we were the right family for her baby.
In a bit of a strange twist (aren’t they all that way?), she informed us that she already had one child. At age 16, she had married the baby’s father but they divorced after three years of marriage. She had been living with another man when she got pregnant, but then left that man, returned to her ex-husband and re-married him.
Both new Christians, she and her husband wanted to make their marriage work this time. They felt that raising a second child who had been fathered by a different man would not be in the best interests of either their marriage or their child. The baby’s father had indicated he was willing to sign relinquishment papers.
The woman and her husband wanted a fully-disclosed, open adoption. Feeling positive and hopeful, we exchanged names, addresses and phone numbers. I accompanied the woman to a pre-natal visit and we saw “our” baby on the ultrasound. The woman requested that I be with her in the delivery room during the baby’s birth.
My husband and I began to let excitement fill us. God seemed so present in this situation, and all signs pointed to the adoption really happening this time.
In the next post…Situation #5, continued
