Have you thought about your daughter’s purity? Don’t wait until it is time to begin dating to discuss the subject, as uncomfortable as it may be. Don’t just assume your daughter will know what to do in a pressure situation, if you haven’t helped her to plan her actions. This can be especially important if your daughter was exposed to questionable activities prior to her adoption.
My sisters-in-the-Lord threw a book shower for Amigrace when we brought her home. One of the books we received was The Princess and the Kiss, by Jennie Bishop. My friend said that she and her husband had used this book to introduce the subject to their young daughters. I’ve already read the book to my daughters and will continue to do so, periodically as it introduces the subject in a beautiful way.
Some of the women at our church have taken their daughters on a Family Life suggested passport 2 purity weekend when they reach 12 or 13. They use the weekend getaway as a special time of bonding and transition. They come home with a purity contract.
When my daughter turned 13, I explained to her what a purity contract was. I asked her if she was interested in signing one. When she said that she was, we purchased a promise ring for her to wear as a reminder and went out to dinner. Then we printed the contract, Super Dad, my daughter, and I all signed it, then we framed it and hung it in her room.
Below is an example of the one we printed, however, you could modify it. Help your daughter to understand that she is a precious gift from God. Tell her that not all men will treat her that way and that she needs to be prepared. Make sure she understands that you will come and get her if she finds herself in a situation and needs a way out.
My body is a precious gift. God gave me my body pure and untouched. I will strive to maintain this purity by keeping myself safe from harm. I will not give away the gift of my body until I have pledged my loved before God and witnesses in marriage. If I have given away my gift already I know that God forgives and I pledge to return to the ways of purity I had before I gave myself. I will take impure thoughts captive immediately and give them to Christ instead of indulging in them. I will live for Christ, loving Him first and foremost. I will keep my body, my thoughts, and my actions safe and focused on Jesus. I will not lust after others, fantasize about them, nor allow myself to be intimate with others. I pledge my heart and body to Christ to watch over until I am married.
Acknowledging that God has made me in His Image, made my body to be His Temple, and has graciously saved me and removed me from my sin, it is my desire to please Him.
From this day forward, I, ___________________________, vow before God and witnesses, in obedience to God’s Word, to keep myself chaste and pure, to give myself totally and only to the mate that God is preparing for me.
May this pledge I make today, __________________, 200___, honor You God, and bring glory to Your Son Jesus Christ. Amen.”
Signature of Vower
Signature of Witness #1
Signature of Witness #2
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Princess & the Kiss: A Story of God’s Gift of Purity by Jennie Bishop (Hardcover – Jul 2000)
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