I don’t know if you have ever browsed the photolisting of children in your state who are waiting to be adopted. Maybe you are afraid of kids in foster care or you really want a baby and not an older child. As a Christian, a mom, and an adoptive mom, I would highly recommend that you find that site and spend some time reading about those kids.
Children in foster care have the ability to describe for their worker what type of family they want to be a part of. So many of the children who are waiting are requesting that they be a part of a family who goes to church. Both of our sons listed that as a requirement of a family that they would accept as their own.
Neither of our boys had that much experience with church or with God but they both knew that it was something they wanted in their lives. I think many children are aware enough to understand that families who church together, stay together.
Children in foster care are astute observers of the situations of others. My children can instinctively tell when another child is in a bad situation. They can also tell when another child is happy and loved. They long to be in a happy family where they can find stability and a sense of belonging. I believe that they are intelligent enough to have noticed that families who love the Lord don’t split up.
When I talked about writing this post with my husband, as usual, he thought for a moment. Then he said, “How often do you think families who attend church regularly and are actively involved wind up having their children removed by the state?” He wasn’t trying to sound elitist or arrogant. He was just wondering. I think it was a great thought. Regardless of how “good” a Christian a person may be, when families attend church together and make their church family a part of their support system, their children usually don’t end up in foster care. We’ve been around the block a time or two in the system and have become quite familiar with many families and their situations. I have yet to encounter a situation where a church going family lost their children to the system.
Children who ARE in the system are aware of these types of things. They are acutely aware of their situation and they know what a great family doesn’t look like. These kids are hungry for a faith that can sustain them. They want and understand their need for a Savior. Explaining Jesus’ sacrifice to children in care can be one of the most amazing experiences you’ll ever have. From personal experience I can tell you that praying the prayer of salvation with your beautiful son, the one who suffered years of abuse at the hands of others, is the most incredible moment I have ever had.
Children in care might scare you but don’t be so afraid that you miss out on one of the most amazing opportunities to share your faith with a child who thirsts so much for Jesus.